We either stay miserable,
We end the relationship, or
We change our selves.
The strain of a relationship is never only the fault of one person.
"If, on our first date, you chase me around the parking lot with a baseball bat, yea, that's all on you. If, however, we go on a second date, now I am sharing in the dysfunction."
"Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me."
Couples in Conflict (CiC) is not couple / marriage counseling. Couples in Conflict is a specific approach utilizing Agreements as a mediator while each partner deals with their own issues.
To participate in Couples in Conflict both partners agree to participate in one month of weekly individual sessions AND CiC sessions. This first month of CiC introduces the dynamic of Agreements while individual sessions focus on discerning individual leanings and predilections.
Within the first month we will establish what works and what doesn't.
In lieu of divorce, CiC can effectively be combined with a therapeutic separation.
Obviously, CiC only works with partners that wish to remain partners.